As Fall arrives- seemingly overnight, many of us are back to early mornings, school and work routines, volunteer positions, homework and busier days!! In this Newsletter I’ll share strategies on goal setting and planning, staying present and mindfulness to help your reentry go a bit more smoothly.
“I’ve got a 2 -year goal to achieve my next position,” said a client recently. She explained that she has a time-consuming, multi- stage project she needs to accomplish first, however, which if she completes early, will make it possible to leave before 2 years. We often have long term goals that depend on tasks and projects that precede them. This makes planning and organization of time, materials and actions more challenging.
When we’re faced with a looming end goal complicated by an important, shorter term project, we can get overwhelmed hyper focusing on one to the exclusion of the other or go back and forth chaotically between the two projects. Here are some strategies that can help us work steadily towards a long- term goal while making progress on sorter term but essential projects:
- Map out in big strokes initially the tasks necessary to achieve the long- term goal. A two- year goal might be broken down into stages with benchmarks to achieve every month or quarter.
- On the same large spreadsheet or flipchart, in a different color enter the near- term project with its high-level sub goals and associated benchmarks.
- Identify the priorities for each benchmark according to the ABC rule:
- time sensitive or urgent and important, B- important, or C- not urgent and not important in the near term.
- Plan out the first month of tasks for each week with a high- level look at the 2 yr. goals and a more detailed eye to the near term one.
- “Chunk” tasks for both goals- break the work into 15 min- to- several hours each week to chip away at the projects. Careful! Be realistic about the time you honestly have available to put towards both goals.
- Review your progress each week and, if tasks are planned daily, each day. Did you put the time in you planned or did life get in the way? Adjust your plan each day, each week, and each month to hit your benchmarks.
- Assign a specific time on your schedule in writing to work on a specific task. If we say, “I’ll do it tonight,” that is not specific enough…suddenly it is 10 pm and we’re fatigued- after 3-4 nights like that we can find ourselves behind schedule and discouraged!
- Ask for help!! Family, Teammates, colleagues across disciplines can offer information or take on parts of one or both goals.
- Reassess the end dates for each project. Is the 2 -year goal for the new position a want or a need?
- If you are getting behind, hard on the facts but be soft on the person. Self-talk can demotivate us if we are overly critical when our plan goes awry.
- Finally: Celebrate! Celebrate both the benchmarks you achieve along the way as well as the completion of each goal!
Setting Goals and planning are essential for progress. We benefit from the clear sense of purpose from pursuing a dream, setting goals and identifying action steps to achieve them. Often, however, we find ourselves mentally living in the future and missing out on today! How can we keep our end goal in mind while living mindfully today?
* First, start your day with a Mindfulness Practice. This could be as simple sipping your coffee, really noticing the smell and taste without looking at your phone! Or, you may wish to sit quietly following your breath with your full attention for 10 minutes. Others may wish to meditate with a free app like “Calm” or “10% happier”. This sets the tone neurologically to be more attentive and present.
* Periodically throughout the day, pause and simply breathe for 30 – 60 seconds with your full awareness on the physical sensation of breathing. I recommend setting an alarm or reminder at regular intervals perhaps 10 -, 12, 3 and 6. This simple technique may show you if you hold the breath or breathe in a rapid- shallow pattern, a common; unconscious stress response.
*Make a deliberate choice to notice your surroundings. If on a walk, notice the flowers, changing leaves, or birds singing rather than worrying about what happened yesterday or what might come next. If in a meeting, really listen to the people speaking – listen for meaning and emotion.
* At the end of each day, focus on the accomplishments you made including effort and progress. And, list 3 things you are grateful for from that day.
*Pay attention to balance: Are you focusing too much on the long-term project and neglecting a significant responsibility? Neglecting self-care?
When we live each day consciously, we can be more at choice so we enjoy our todays while working toward that future goal.
If you are interested in learning more about Mindfulness you might benefit from my Mindfulness Based Support Group starting Oct 23, 2019 at 7:30 pm. See upcoming events for details.
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*Conversational Intelligence, Judith E. Glaser. Bibliomotion, Inc., 2004.
Once upon a time, I became a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Owner of Ascend Consulting, Inc., providing Psychotherapy and Counseling. Then one day, I had the honor of attending 3 days of Coach Training in Philadelphia with Thomas Leonard, the “Father of Coaching”. It was fascinating to watch Thomas’ compelling style of asking insightful, challenging questions to move clients to act! to achieve their goals. I enrolled in his coaching school “Coachville,” on the spot!
During the next several years the ICF was growing and credentialing requirements were evolving. After taking over 265 hours of training and meeting the additional requirements of 2 recorded sessions, a live coaching exam and over 250 coaching hours, I was certified by the ICF as an ACC (Associate Certified Coach) in 2007.
Over the next several years my training continued and my coaching hours serving clients began to add up. In 2012, I was President of the ICF: Philadelphia Chapter. In 2013, I achieved my PCC (Professional Certified Coach) designation after mentor coaching continuing education and an exam that took 13 hours!
Since then, I have become certified in the EQ-I and Hogan assessments, and graduated from Judith Glasser’s Conversational Intelligence coach training. I love this work which allows me to partner with my clients to expand their self-awareness, go deeper and wider than they thought they could, and to support them as they tap into their own answers. I am a professional nudge, so they stay accountable to themselves and achieve their goals.
The story continues as this year I will submit my 40+ hours of ICF: approved continuing education and renew my PCC. And, I will continue in my 2 peer supervision groups so I can keep learning and honing my skills as an Executive and Career coach. The requirements are rigorous and I am proud that they are!
Stephen (not his real name) was in his weekly management meeting and as usual, he found himself getting frustrated with his colleague Bob. Every week, Bob was vocal in his opinions and Stephen often found his mind wandering when Bob would launch into an explanation or ask questions that Stephen thought were unnecessary. The fact was, that although Bob was extroverted, he often brought up information that needed to be addressed. Stephen knew he was missing potentially critical discussions by “zoning out” but he didn’t know how to force himself to listen. As his executive coach, I asked Stephen how well he listened to himself. Was he aware of the subtle tension that preceded his annoyance with Bob? What was the thinking that preceded him tuning Bob out? How adept was Stephen at listening to himself when he was anxious or stressed? I suggested that he try Mindfulness Meditation: simply follow the breath noticing the full inhale, pause, exhale, pause, inhale. As he practiced every day for 10-15 minutes, he noticed the pause, between inhale and exhale and the longer pause between breaths. He became aware of his wandering thoughts when practicing and eventually this carried over into his workday. As he learned to pause and to listen to his wandering thoughts in meditation, he became able to pause before zoning out in management meetings. The pause helped him to be at choice so he could to listen to Bob’s message despite his talkative style.
Mindfulness increases awareness and change in executive coaching. Gain a better understanding of its benefits, and how it enhances your client’s experience by joining me at the IFC June Dinner on June 20, 2019 at 6:00PM, where I’ll be discussing how to use Mindfulness exercises in your personal and professional presence.
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No one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes. Even though we all make them, it isn’t always as easy to live with the fear and judgment we put on ourselves because of them.
How does one turn down the guilty and self-critical voice we hear inside when we do make a wrong decision, and turn up the Self-Compassion to recover from it?
Read my latest March/April 2019 Power Point for tips on being more Self-Compassionate during those times:
Build Awareness Through Mindfulness
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