{"id":1666,"date":"2019-05-29T13:41:40","date_gmt":"2019-05-29T18:41:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tate-ascendconsulting.webstage1.com\/?p=1666"},"modified":"2019-05-30T08:46:44","modified_gmt":"2019-05-30T13:46:44","slug":"listening-begins-with-the-pause","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ascendconsulting.net\/listening-begins-with-the-pause\/","title":{"rendered":"Listening Begins with the Pause"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Stephen (not his real name) was in his weekly management meeting and as usual, he found himself getting frustrated with his colleague Bob.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Every week, Bob was vocal in his opinions and Stephen often found his mind wandering when Bob would launch into an explanation or ask questions that Stephen thought were unnecessary.\u00a0 The fact was, that although Bob was extroverted, he often brought up information that needed to be addressed. Stephen knew he was missing potentially critical discussions by \u201czoning out\u201d but he didn\u2019t know how to force himself to listen. As his executive coach, I asked Stephen how well he listened <\/span>to himself<\/em>.\u00a0 Was he aware of the subtle tension that preceded his annoyance with Bob?\u00a0 What was the thinking that preceded him tuning Bob out? How adept was Stephen at listening <\/span>to himself<\/em> when he was anxious or stressed?\u00a0 I suggested that he try Mindfulness Meditation:\u00a0 simply follow the breath noticing the full inhale, pause, exhale, pause, inhale.\u00a0 As he practiced every day for 10-15 minutes, he noticed the pause, between inhale and exhale and the longer pause between breaths.\u00a0 He became aware of his wandering thoughts when practicing and eventually this carried over into his workday. \u00a0As he learned to pause and to listen to his wandering thoughts in meditation, he became able to pause before zoning out in management meetings.\u00a0 The pause helped him to be at choice so he could to listen to Bob\u2019s message despite his talkative style.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,11],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ascendconsulting.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1666"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ascendconsulting.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ascendconsulting.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ascendconsulting.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ascendconsulting.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1666"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/ascendconsulting.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1666\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1702,"href":"https:\/\/ascendconsulting.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1666\/revisions\/1702"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ascendconsulting.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1666"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ascendconsulting.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1666"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ascendconsulting.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1666"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}